This was fascinating. Years ago I read that, to an extent, humans are always performing. We have different standards of behavior that we conform to at the grocery store vs a nightclub, to have a really obvious difference.
Thank you so much for the thoughtful review. I will never look at pink socks the same way (but I might have to go buy some). ❤️
My spouse and I did not do a wedding, not officially, but we signed the paperwork and made it official. Our situation required legally binding ties that the the law would recognize.
If we ever do a big party and vow renewal (we have discussed potentially for our 20th) I want a picture with everyone in matching pink socks.
My heart. The Birdcage is my go-to movie when I'm feeling sad. I love that film so damn much. If I could only have one to watch, it would be The Birdcage. Everything about it is exquisite - you touched on ALL OF IT. Thank you so much for this piece. I am definitely watching it this weekend.
Thank you so much for reading. I watch it every year and will be watching tonight for my annual celebration. I can’t wait to see the lights on the water and know I’m stepping into a place of laughter, joy, and love. It touches me to know you felt we covered it all because there is truly so much to talk about with this movie. Thank you for reading, and for sharing. When I am dancing tonight and singing we are family, I know I’ll have one more sibling in Atlanta belting along.
I’m in Ohio, baby. But I was born in Atlanta. Druid Wendy and I look similar on the comments - her being in Atlanta was a commonality that connected us. You’ll have a sibling in Ohio, as well. Always safe and welcome with me and mines.
Im so sorry! I thought Druid Wendy just had multiple profiles this makes so much more sense. I’m so sorry for the mix up and glad to know I have a kin in Ohio!
You've scripted sentiments I've thought for so long in such a beautiful collection of thoughts and theory. This film was a foundational stone in my mental structure as a young queer person (and theatre student who adored both Nathan Lane and Robin Williams). You put the duality of its grief and joy so well:
"What it does with laughter and celebration is dream of an existence for the LGBTQ+ community post crisis, one that exists entirely independent of and without being defined by the tragedy they had witnessed. That they had survived."
Thank you so much, both for commenting and for sharing!
I know exactly what you mean about it being a foundational stone and I am so glad that this work spoke to you, especially as someone who is a clear fan of the film.
Context is always so important to me and when we see their joy it makes it so much more powerful for me as it is was written almost in direct response to that silent question after the plague decimated the gay community-Where do we fit now? Nathan and Robin's answer was right here, in the open, dancing, laughing, being yourself, where you have always been.
This post was awesome, Lady! I didn’t realize the cinematographer was Lubezki, who is one of the best in the business (including Children of Men 😳), or all the background on Jean Poiret! I did know that Mike Nichols, the director of The Graduate and Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?, also directed this one. And I love Dianne Wiest, who is so underrated (even though she has 2 well-deserved Oscars and modern audiences all know and love her from Edward Scissorhands). What a great write up & discussion. This made me appreciate the film 2x!
Awe thank you for reading! I love Diane. My favorite with her is an old one but it’s her and Whoopi Goldberg in The Associate. Phenomenal showing by her and Whoopi both, but for me that was the movie that made me look up other things Wiest had been in and figure out who she was. I am so glad to hear the piece resonated with you and it gave you new insights! I didn’t know everything about this movie I did until I started researching for other things in college. The more I learned the better the movie got. Watching Nathan lane talk about his experience filming with Robin, and his allyship in the press promoting the film, in the tribute to Robin Williams he gave moves me not to tears but to weeping. I had made it all the way through without crying until that moment and seeing Nathan in tears was more than I could take.
Shared this movie with my son and his fiancee for the first time Memorial Day weekend after they a discovered Nathan Lane Mid Century Modern! They loved him in both!!
Its a classic! wonderful to meet you Kevin and thank you for sub. If they are a fan of Nathan Lane, they should also check out Mousehunt, its a great one and family friendly.
This was fascinating. Years ago I read that, to an extent, humans are always performing. We have different standards of behavior that we conform to at the grocery store vs a nightclub, to have a really obvious difference.
Thank you so much for the thoughtful review. I will never look at pink socks the same way (but I might have to go buy some). ❤️
My spouse and I did not do a wedding, not officially, but we signed the paperwork and made it official. Our situation required legally binding ties that the the law would recognize.
If we ever do a big party and vow renewal (we have discussed potentially for our 20th) I want a picture with everyone in matching pink socks.
That sounds lovely! 🥰
My only “real” wedding was my husband. With a dress and flowers and all. But we didn’t do a honeymoon.
We surprisingly did do a honeymoon, though that we did a year later. We went to Disney!
My heart. The Birdcage is my go-to movie when I'm feeling sad. I love that film so damn much. If I could only have one to watch, it would be The Birdcage. Everything about it is exquisite - you touched on ALL OF IT. Thank you so much for this piece. I am definitely watching it this weekend.
Thank you so much for reading. I watch it every year and will be watching tonight for my annual celebration. I can’t wait to see the lights on the water and know I’m stepping into a place of laughter, joy, and love. It touches me to know you felt we covered it all because there is truly so much to talk about with this movie. Thank you for reading, and for sharing. When I am dancing tonight and singing we are family, I know I’ll have one more sibling in Atlanta belting along.
I’m in Ohio, baby. But I was born in Atlanta. Druid Wendy and I look similar on the comments - her being in Atlanta was a commonality that connected us. You’ll have a sibling in Ohio, as well. Always safe and welcome with me and mines.
Im so sorry! I thought Druid Wendy just had multiple profiles this makes so much more sense. I’m so sorry for the mix up and glad to know I have a kin in Ohio!
You've scripted sentiments I've thought for so long in such a beautiful collection of thoughts and theory. This film was a foundational stone in my mental structure as a young queer person (and theatre student who adored both Nathan Lane and Robin Williams). You put the duality of its grief and joy so well:
"What it does with laughter and celebration is dream of an existence for the LGBTQ+ community post crisis, one that exists entirely independent of and without being defined by the tragedy they had witnessed. That they had survived."
Tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you so much, both for commenting and for sharing!
I know exactly what you mean about it being a foundational stone and I am so glad that this work spoke to you, especially as someone who is a clear fan of the film.
Context is always so important to me and when we see their joy it makes it so much more powerful for me as it is was written almost in direct response to that silent question after the plague decimated the gay community-Where do we fit now? Nathan and Robin's answer was right here, in the open, dancing, laughing, being yourself, where you have always been.
This post was awesome, Lady! I didn’t realize the cinematographer was Lubezki, who is one of the best in the business (including Children of Men 😳), or all the background on Jean Poiret! I did know that Mike Nichols, the director of The Graduate and Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?, also directed this one. And I love Dianne Wiest, who is so underrated (even though she has 2 well-deserved Oscars and modern audiences all know and love her from Edward Scissorhands). What a great write up & discussion. This made me appreciate the film 2x!
Awe thank you for reading! I love Diane. My favorite with her is an old one but it’s her and Whoopi Goldberg in The Associate. Phenomenal showing by her and Whoopi both, but for me that was the movie that made me look up other things Wiest had been in and figure out who she was. I am so glad to hear the piece resonated with you and it gave you new insights! I didn’t know everything about this movie I did until I started researching for other things in college. The more I learned the better the movie got. Watching Nathan lane talk about his experience filming with Robin, and his allyship in the press promoting the film, in the tribute to Robin Williams he gave moves me not to tears but to weeping. I had made it all the way through without crying until that moment and seeing Nathan in tears was more than I could take.
Shared this movie with my son and his fiancee for the first time Memorial Day weekend after they a discovered Nathan Lane Mid Century Modern! They loved him in both!!
Its a classic! wonderful to meet you Kevin and thank you for sub. If they are a fan of Nathan Lane, they should also check out Mousehunt, its a great one and family friendly.
I’ll have to check it out. Don’t think I’ve seen it.
Great review, y’all. One of my favorites.